WHY YOU NEED A LEGAL AGREEMENT WITH YOUR VENDORS ON YOUR BIG DAY

Just because I am a Makeup Artist and I have been to many weddings and see how vendors are particular about their money and don't usually have any emotional attachment to the Bride's satisfaction, except the ones that hold integrity in high esteem, (few if there is) I have obviously come to a conclusion that any event, especially wedding is a serious business that the expenses majorly cannot be recovered as soon as possible.  I have seen brides complain about the bad way a vendor had treated them but people had laughed about it, some are heart rendering but nothing can be done about it (imagine a vendors giving your wedding gown to someone else and giving you rag instead? For a gown you have paid for with your own money or someone giving you a cooler of meat for a whole cow you bought for your wedding?), so I reasoned that maybe if there is a legal backing to all these things, little or no shits will be the outcome of our events. So I am recommending a legal binding between me and my vendors.

Remember this post is for people who really want a grand wedding and not for people like me who always plan everything themselves to save cost.
Nenye

Below are some of my legal details and what should be in the binding agreements.

1. Makeover

Makeup by me many years ago. Linkup

It is a good thing that makeover artists have rules to backup their contracts as to how customers pay and cater for them. But what happens when the tailor, makeup artist and other stylist fail to deliver and end these things on social media. There should be a penalty for  all these heart breaks when the bridal look is ruined. I mean, to most brides, how they look on this day is actually their prerogative.

2. Food/Refreshments

Have you contracted a trending catering service only to discover that their have ruined the orders and food type because of pride and over confidence? Was the drink served cold and did it really come out as satisfying as the money that was sacrificially expensed? Did it come at the uexpected time? And how did you render these services to my guests?

3. Decoration

Oh! I have seen brides shade tears of joy or pains, according to how the event decor is. Do you know that your guest view of your wedding environment contributes to how they would really treat you at your wedding? Was it the discussed decor and did you pay attention to details? Did anybody stay back at the event to correct the complaints or did they stay back in the hotel room and sleep without considering if someone would call? Remember my guest photos stands too.

4. MC

Please don't insult my guests in the name of cracking jokes, they are my special people and shouldn't be scorned for their looks, age, stature, dress sense, pocket value or whatever. Treat them as VVIP and how much begging of my guests should you not do? Some things are outrageous, so trade with caution. Also remember that it is my wedding and not your show, I didn't pay you to enjoy yourself, have fun and forget us.

5. Music

Where are the theme songs and particular songs for a particular time in the event. Did you shout at my guest or turn deaf ears when it was their dance time and didn't play their requested songs? At least to a reasonable extent. How was your sound and musical communication. Let your dancers no drag sprayed money with the bride. You have been paid for your services already and don't take too much alcohol to make you misbehave.

6. Security

Did you bounce out my enemies/uninvited guests? Did people fight and have a gun show? How safe did my guest feel? Hope people's car and gadgets didn't go missing too.

7. Souvenir

My souvenir should be in a perfect condition, devoid of breakages and unqualified packaging. We hope that you let our guest have a good treat.

8. Train

I don't want you not showing up because of your job, your Church, your tailor or a pressing iron ruining your dress. You will have to be available on the call up time and behave as the bride helper that you are. Be very obedient and move with other girls in your train, we are not here to feel you, it is not your wedding. Remember the hairstyle and whatever your group head had advised. And for the chief, read my next post on your services for the day.

9. Photographer

Please I know you are wonderful and that is why I have hired your services, so keep to the theme. Make sure you don't come alone and give excuses on how your crew couldn't meet up on time. At least there should be three standby photographers and two videographers to capture the moments. Make me happy and send the soft copies on time and remember to give me a good photo book when you are done.

10. Logistics/Accommodation

I don't want a car break down, I don't want a vehicle not to be available at its given time too and I don't want my train in a tricycle, bicycle or Okada and my mother trekking to Church; it will break my heart. Remember a good accommodation will relax my guest and make them dress their best for my wedding.

11. Event Planner 

Please make me happy and contact the best of vendors

NOTE

After the consultation of event planner, there would be a scheduled meeting for the event planner/manager and the agreed vendors with my lawyer. Here they will discuss their jobs and sign a legal agreement and agree to the repercussions of not delivering at least 90% of their services. You don't come to my wedding refusing to do your job because the catering department have not given you food or that you ordered for cake and it wasn't delivered etc. If I were your food provider, I wouldn't be paying for your services.  

How do you see this? Give your Yes or No with reasons in the comment section.

I love you all.

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TOP TRENDS FOR 2020 TRADITIONAL BRIDES

Happy New year lovelies, I am back for your Sundays and guess what? It's an exciting year already. I promise to do my best to serve you gists although in a creative way. Thanks to Dubby and all that checked on me, adapting to adult life is really not easy I must say. So today, I am presenting the major fashion trends that have come to stay already, if you are a trend person, this is your to do list. 

Remember that you don't also have to wait for a trend to wear what you really like. Sit well ad sail with me this 2020, your breakthrough is certain.

Velvet

Yes o, our akwa oche is trending aggressively. This is currently number one for the traditional bride and wedding guest. It is really versatile in styling and comes in royalty if you know the deal. The rush for it is already affecting its market but before the whole world realizes dear, I am whispering you go get yours on time. Choose a glorious colour and style too as you can see below. You can also decides to create your style alone with your vevet or fabricmix according to your creativity. Go for it!

Bridal shower to go or wedding guest with a killer heel

Mixed with another fabric

Satin Gele/Centre Circle

The beautiful thing about it is that it always glitters, it is less harsh and can go with whatever fabric you choose. There is no expertise needed to horn the craft of tying it and it suits just anybody. I have mine already.

Daring Slit/Dangling Flouce

What are you waiting for? This 2020 is a year to dare because we are so sure of its blessings. We can always change our dress look and reveal a little. Remember to dare the dare that you can comfortably dare. Happy slitting clothes instead of throats.

Burgundy Again

Have you noticed? Burgundy is back with a bang, either as a must for scarfing, makeup or the complete outfit. Souls are not smiling this time around. It is such an honour to pick them again from your wardrobes, dust off and trend or you actually buy one. The styles for Burgundy are currently crazy and not to be missed.

Join me next week as I give you the top trending beauty rules for 2020. Am glad I made it here, thanks for the views too. I love you all.

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HOW TO TRANSFORM YOUR TROUSER TO A SKIRT

Hello my lovelies, I miss you much than you miss me but you see, sometimes we are not in control of life but God is. I have been searching for things you should like while I was away and I remembered we all love to manage the little cash at hand even if our needs are numerous.

I actually did this tutorial for most of us that hardly have skirt. We probably have that oversized Jean trouser in our house that everyone had abandoned or you are just tired of rocking this material and you want to throw them away or better still, there is an urgent need for a skirt in your life and you can't afford it. Above all, there are many styles of skirt that I fancy but can't find In the market, especially the materials and colours so my long time trouser can do the magic or a second hand trouser in the market if I had all the time to myself.

Below is a tutorial on how you transform that trouser to a skirt. My little Sis needed a brown skirt for a next day campaign and this idea was birthed. After all I had a brown trouser and had to help.

FIRST STEP

This is the trouser, all you have to do fold in half and cut the flap and then cut the length to a desired preference. If the trouser is too fat, you can loosen the waist band and cut to a preferred size or better still, cut both ends.

EVALUATE THE FLAP

Distribution the flap evenly and check if it is perfectly removed. Special emphasis on the mid front as it should be a little higher can the back cut.

Note that as all female lower attire should be, emphasises for a lower back cut is really important as can be seen. You obviously have a big ass no matter how small you think it is, that little lower cut should satisfy it. You don't want to be wearing a skirt where the front is longer than the back side, it doesn't look right. Observe carefully when you cut.

END RESULT

All you have to do is sow straight down the cuts, fit and hem and your skirt is ready.
My client was satisfied as can be seen in the pictures. Rock with your favourite tops.

Stay tuned for other minimalist lifestyle and craft tutorial for your blessed saving. I love you all.

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FOR THE UNINVITED WEDDING LONGTHROATS

I have always wondered why the wedding couples now use invites strictly for their wedding and I don't really have to start giving you reasons to why they choose to do so.  Somethings are actually wrong but you will never know until it happens to you. I mean I have been an uninvited wedding long throat before but seriously, it wasn't my fault, my colleagues and I had a lot of pranks every Saturday working as a Marketer those days but it wasn't my fault, he had told me he knows the groom and I had to accompany him to this huge wedding at City Centre in Abuja. You can imagine my excitement until I counted my teeth with my tongue and vamoosed. The groom was the Niger State Governor's son and we were in no way familiar. You need to see the beautiful decor, fine Bride and groom and all seats were tagged! Can you imagine? Where I wan even sitdan sef? + he didn't invite me on time so I had to wear my work clothe to the venue. I was so ashamed of myself but I didn't leave sha without tasting the cupcake and drinks.

Definition of Terms

AN UNINVITED WEDDING GUEST

The guest that are close or familiar with a couple and wasn't invited to their wedding. It may be a mistake or something but when you get there, you will find a space, a common group and even shame the couple for not taking their wrongs at heart. At least you came, even when your person did not invite you.

THE UNINVITED WEDDING LONG THROAT

You don't know the couple or their family and nobody invited you but you sha went because you have leg.

         Types of uninvited wedding long throats

The Escorts

This type often follow a main wedding guest to the wedding but act as if they are the main invitee. They consists of girlfriends/boyfriends, colleague, neighbour, runs girls etc. One way or the other, these ones are close to the main guest and often times have an 'incase' reservation from the celebrants wey get sense. These ones are made up of mostly young people who dress better than the invited guest and complain over almost everything.


The Poor

Some people have no food to eat and your wedding is their last hope, they will definitely come unless your bouncers don't let them in, they are very meek in nature and have eyes that plead for mercy, even if the bouncers chase them out, they will stay and wait for the occasion to be over, give them just anything and they will accept. Some come with nylons and are willing to accept left over foods. These category is made up of young children as their mothers are too shy to come. They dress their best but their best is not good enough. If they are smart enough, they will scale through without your bouncer noticing.


Fine Girl/Hustlers

These ones don't go for just any wedding, it has to be the talk of the town wedding where creme de la  cremes come to mingle. A lot of investment go on this category. Before they will pay to be on the train but because of their misconduct, achupugo ha na train so they now buy or steal invites and come to your wedding. They are usually the best dressed, and always prying to devour promising young men and fathers. If you see too many show backs and glaring cleavages dear bride, just start praying.  Some are invited by grooms friends to make the day happen but staring sunglasses and preying Grannies eyes says you should go.
After the wedding, you see their pictures first in your wedding tags.

The Overdo Nice Ones

These are mostly guys, the fine hungry boys, always nice at every young promising ladies. They come with borrowed cars and outfit, hustling hard yo kill fishes in the river. I once went for a friends wedding and we hadn't been friends for long though, so I had to sit at a respectable position that wouldn't call for embarrassment. So this nice guy keeps asking, do you care for rice? moi-moi? Chapman? Cake? And he kept ordering Ushers around and ate like 3 different foods, Ukwa, jollof/coconut/fried rice and moi-moi and finally rice and gravy sauce. I guess he didn't like swallow so he didn't order and I noticed he didn't even say hi to anybody and I had a little talk with him, bobo just came to eat and spin chicks, he didn't know nobody. This category finishes your wedding beer. They want to help you

The Stealers

One girl just rushed to me and beamed, Aunty! Huh? I am no aunty sis, try again another years. The first thing they steal are wedding sweets and small chops, then cake, then phones and money too. They are always sophisticated and disappear and appear at intervals.

The Fun of the Party

These are mostly hungry youths, dressed averagely and hungry too. They allow you to enjoy your wedding and then come when everything is almost over. They come in groups and eat whatever you can offer, but you must serve them on their table too and give them beers too. Once they are satisfied and the groom has finished the vote of thanks, the DJ has to jam them up. They have dance steps in their DNA, all the final video come from them and they need their space to have fun. Remember they have life challenges but decide not to steal but take life the way they see it. Please let them be if you are not the bride or groom before dem beat Satan comot for your face where you dey chase dem. You don't want to go home with the insult of your life.

Thanks for reader, people needed wedding gist and I had to deliver. If you think there are some that I didn't mention, please drop your post/contributions on the comment section. Please don't start calling or harming me on social media as to how you enjoyed it without saying it here first.

Yours truly, Nenyechi

YOUR MONEY OR YOUR LIFE

 Honesty, I have watched movies where armed robbers threaten people with, "your money or your life." delima but it has never occurred to me that it will someday happen to me. There on those movies, I see panics, pains ND all to let go of one's possession and I would sit, wondering how such producers even dared to create such, today my case became worse.

I am staring at the ceiling and watching three brown lines from the rain designs that my leaking roof had produced because after rent, my landlord never picks my calls until another rent is due. And anytime I complain of the leaking roof, it was never his business, I hear quit notice threats. I imagine myself paying another agent fee, lawyer fee, rent and security, ESWAMA and all and I lose my self confidence. I can't threaten my landlord. Watching these three lines on my ceiling, my daily needs begins to show off. I can't find peace in this world, all my problems begins to show up just now that I recently turned broke. I just have to have a headache.

I get to work now and my eyes begins to rotate and my head starts to beat sounds into my ear and my body begins to get hot and I can't concentrate anymore. I begin to shiver. A call and Taxi immediately gets me home. I her phone calls and smell of irritating foods, even my favorite rice now nauseates me.
Then am in the hospital and and again, Nurses and Doctors are prancing up and down and I remember just now that ego, my sister had asked for her monthly pocket money and Ezekiel's pocket money had finished and my rent is almost due, I immediately sprung from the hospital Sofa and screamed, "Doctor, doctor, I am fine, I am fine now. Just give me Ciprotab, Ciproflaxin, let me kill the remaining fever. It is food poisoning, I am fine now. Ada give me my ATM card, no withdrawal, no withdrawal."

My eyes are still turning and my feet can't carry me. Doctor will ask for a card fee, consulting fee, bed fee, drip fee and administration fee. All these fee for me when money and thoughts had brought these fever? God I prefer my money to my life now to solve most of my problems. They may call me n Igbo girl but that is not the case.

This post my sound stupid to you, but most lives have been lost because we prefer our money to our lives, infact, lack of money had caused many sicknesses in the first place. Depression and lack is real in Nigeria, if you see a hardworking individual in this society, try your best to support them. Don't go for their burial with love, make them healthy. Sometimes in life, the criminal called problems, comes armed with wants and we have to choose money.

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LAYERING YOUR DRESS - A HIGHER SENSE IN FASHION + HOW TO

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Fashion trends come and go and so is layering, I really don't know about it's history but I may trace it to the Igbo women in Nigeria but it became a trend for ladies when Rihanna, a music icon layered her shirt into a mini Jeans skirt, the world went into flames and ladies dived into this trend. What seems like a joke that had come and gone, returned with a bang in a chicky dimension and you will never believe to what extents the creative minds had taken this to. 

Below are styles and occasions where layered clothes came out in diverse forms. Are you planning for a wedding, show or just a topnotch fashion statement? Here are your cues;

Wedding Guest

Second Dress

Traditional Marriage/Engagement

In most occasions, brides use feathers and fringes to layer dresses but using beads, fringe and fabrics to make a double top for your dress is out of this world!

Big Chick Casual

The big Chicks layer differently, my favorite is the the skirt layer.

The superstar's

You know that it takes a superstar to try this right?

Leave a comment below if you enjoyed this post and suggest too what kind of post you will love to see again. 

Love you all and thanks for always checking on me. 

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